Null TerraThe way of ~~the monk~~ ADHD/social anxiety
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The way of the monk
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FlamekebabLoosing is almost never the word anyone is looking for.
loosening?
MothraThe right word is "losing", one O, not two. They have different meanings
can you not loosen the ties?
That usage is akin to “unleashing” which is almost the opposite of the intended meaning.
Loosen ties means to make cords or ties less tight. It's a physical thing. For example, with your shoestrings, you can loosen these ties if they happen to be too tight. You can also lose your shoestrings, meaning you lost them and don't know where they are anymore.
You don't talk about emotional or social ties like that. You can lose social ties though, in the sense of loss. But you don't loose social ties, it doesn't make sense. That's the difference between the two words.
I disagree:
The phrase 'tight-knit community' exists, and is fairly commonly used.
A 'loose-knit community' would have... less direct ties, less overlapping ties between everyone to everyone, would be more... islands of people connected by a few inter-island connections... maybe less frequent interactions between members...
A social network is often mathematically/academically/professional
ly described as a bunch of points, clustered, with connections between them.
Even the very word 'network' is etymylogically derived from a net, an interwoven mesh.
You very much can literally loosen or tighten a net, make one that is more pourous or more dense in terms of threads in any given surface area.
Hey there ya go, even Threads is an actual name for a social network.
I think the metaphor or analogy of social networks being described by other terms that literally apply to an actual net or fabric is... actually incredibly common.
... You've never heard a person being described as having 'loose ties to (other person/group)?
Have you never watched any kind of detective show, a 'stop the terrorists' political action thriller?
We're discussing the use of lose and loose in particular, not other words; and in the specific context of the text in this meme. Just because you can think of plenty of examples of social networks that have loose structures (and so can I, and most people) doesn't mean it's okay to use the word any way you feel is right for you.
Or in other words, a sentence can be structurally sound but be invalid in terms of cultural convention and language use. And in such a case, it's still deemed to be grammatically incorrect - whether it's misspelling or misusing of the word.
But you have the right to disagree all you want.
I disagree:
The phrase 'tight-knit community' exists, and is fairly commonly used.
We were not discussing 'tight-knit'
A 'loose-knit community' would have...
Yes, would have. I've never heard the term, perhaps it exists. But it's used as an adjective here, not a verb as in our case. Point irrelevant.
A social network is often mathematically/academically/professionally described as a bunch of points, clustered, with connections between them.
Even the very word 'network' is etymylogically derived from a net, an interwoven mesh.
You very much can literally loosen or tighten a net, make one that is more pourous or more dense in terms of threads in any given surface area.
Hey there ya go, even Threads is an actual name for a social network.
I think the metaphor or analogy of social networks being described by other terms that literally apply to an actual net or fabric is... actually incredibly common.
All this is irrelevant. Of course you can describe loose networks. Or meshes. Or nets. Note loose is an adjective in all of these cases, again. Not the usage we were originally discussing.
... You've never heard a person being described as having 'loose ties to (other person/group)?
Yeah I've heard. Adjective again.
Have you never watched any kind of detective show, a 'stop the terrorists' political action thriller?
Yes, I have. Irrelevant though.
Øπ3ŕIf you were talking about neckties, maybe. Loosening social ties doesn't sound natural, at least to me.
Lol, then that's a you problem.
That exact phrase is how it would be used, and has been used, in print, for decades
You can loose, or loosen a knot, or lasso, or if you are rather good with ropes nets and knots, you can actually do that to an entire net, give it more or less slack, grid density.
I guess its just become far less common for people to have practical, hands on experience with knots and ropes... its pretty important if you want to moor a boat to a dock, or make your own fishing net as humans have done for millenia...
Same goes for knitting, weaving, making clothes and garments of all kinds.
Ever loosened a waistband, or tightened one?
Less and less people have actual hands on experience with any of this, so I guess the metaophors/analogies aren't as obvious anymore.
Heck, loose, as a verb, just like that, also basically means 'to throw' or 'to project away from you'.
You loose an arrow, or a javelin.
You let loose a hail of bullets, ie, throw them downrange, away from you.
You loose a dog, to set it free, or perhaps to go run off and chase/attack something.
Which is differenrt from losing a dog, which is when it fails to return from you loosing it.
Loose is also plenty useful. However neither of those are the word "loosing".
Does one loose social ties with a catapult? A trebuchet? Are social ties loosed as one would arrows from a bow? Personally I loosen my ties by pulling down on the knot, away from the neck
SabataYou just have to be yourself and not go out side and everyone forgets you exist.
One time I was in a theatre and I realized I forgot to put my phone on silent and then I thought who's gonna be calling me anyway lol
Not having any social connections, never have to use Do Not Disturb mode.
Don't worry, much of social interaction can be the primary source of disturbance, NGL.
Semperverus
This is what quitting Facebook on moral grounds is like when everyone you know has the moral fortitude of wet newspaper.
That's exactly what happened to me.
This but Discord for those under 30
Hmm does doing something like that on black (evil) moral grounds also count?
Phhht. Amateur. I do both!
Same. And I’m lonely ¼ of the time. The struggle is real.
I'm honestly sorry man. But I actually just meant it in a misanthropic way, not in the social anxiety-way. So no struggle, just a decision. I honestly just noticed upon your reply that there are people who involuntarily cut ties.
If you ever feel lonesome, please hesitate, and don't contact me.
I can’t tell if your are being deliberately mean, or if you are reasserting your desire for people to not contact you unprompted.
*losing
That speling gave me eye twitches.
Loosing ties
it's either:
- losing
- loosening
no other choice.
"loosing" can only be used immediately before "the dogs of war".
even in that case, usage of -ing form is poor grammar which takes away potential choices of phrasing and reduces possibilities for creativity.
And arrows, no?
You are correct, of course. I was being difficult.
I personally always get a severe anxiety of missing something important even when my phone is not silenced so I'm just trying my best to stay busy to not think about it.
Do you mostly leave your iphone on ‘do not disturb’ mode or ‘disturb’ mode??
it irks me when things that aren't attributable to adhd get attributed to adhd. enjoy your common ground, i guess that's the point, but the side effect is a generation with just as fucked up of an understanding of mental health as the generation that denied their MH issues